It's easy to get tangled up in our feelings after a great upset. We are confused, frustrated, angry, resigned, sad, scared. All of these feelings are valid and understandable: we would not be human if we didn't have access to these emotions. But instead of letting them control us, we must learn to coexist with them. For we cannot control our feelings. No matter how hard we may try to manage them, they arise on their own then drift away, like clouds of consciousness. We often say in Fishbird that we "don't care about your feelings." That may sound harsh, but it is a sincere commitment to get beyond how we feel and into action that is in-line with our purpose.
We notice our feelings. We acknowledge our feelings. We accept them without feeling guilty about them. But we do not let our feelings take control: that would be like a cloud staying put forever. Let your feelings float on.