Too few of us pay attention to the words coming out of our mouths. We are unaware of what we say. We make promises we don't keep. We casually say hurtful things. We lie to cover our own missteps, only hurting ourselves in the process. Our language forms our reality, and right now, our reality has no integrity. We're getting exactly what we speak.
To restore the integrity of our word, we need to acknowledge every instance where we didn't make good on what we said. All those instances are small cracks in your frame: they're imperceivable, but they're leaking your power. You patch the cracks by confirming their existence. If you're like me, you'll be doing patchwork for the rest of your life, for having integrity is like climbing a mountain with no top. It's a discipline, not a destination.
After the patchwork comes the diligence. Depending on how long you've been alive, your language is most likely built around habitual patterns that have become so engrained in your identity that it feels impossible to change how you communicate. So you've got to start small.
For example, I have a habit of saying that I "need 15 minutes" when I'm trying to get someone to leave me alone: whether it's my wife asking when I'll be home, or someone at work asking when I'll be sending over something they need. But it's not a truthful statement. I'm not committed to the 15 minutes, I'm just committed to getting people an answer so they go away. I'm not proud of this fact, but I am aware of it. And being aware of it, I'm now able to do something about it. Awareness isn't enough: you've got to get into action. Now, whenever I'm about to text 15 minutes to my wife or a peer, I catch myself and take a moment to think about how long I actually need. That moment of thought is the difference between being responsible for your words or irresponsible.
Changing my habit makes a difference in the world.
Transformation of self transforms the world.
So start small and move in larger and larger circles. And soon, your circle of change will encompass the entire Earth.